So, this may come as a massive shock to some of you but the hubs and I haven’t been out on a date since Aria was born. Yes. You heard right. It’s been over seven months.
We don’t have any family that live locally, and I just don’t trust a babysitter. In all fairness, I’ve had a hard time letting go of my baby girl. She’s basically a piece of my heart, and I have a hard time to just leave her with anybody. Sounds crazy…but this is how I feel about it so I went with my gut. As she gets older and can voice her needs/wants/concerns, I feel like I will get better.
Luckily, my mother in law has been here for the last two weeks, and she is really good with her. She’s been able to learn her routine. So FINALLY, last night, we went out on our first date night after becoming parents.
It was awesome. We went to this sushi restaurant nearby, called Soto. I’m glad we went out and had an amazing meal and got to spend some time together, just us. No strollers…no high chairs…no worries. A much needed date night. A few pictures of our meal!
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| Salmon on lemongrass being seared by fire at our table!!! AMAZEBALLS! |
Yea, it was basically a feast. Half the stuff that we ate isn’t even pictured! YUP, we are definitely fatties. HA.
Anyway, am I happy that I went out? YES. Am I ok with the fact that I waited this long? ABSOLUTELY. I know to some it may sound absolutely ridiculous, but I feel like if it feels right with me, then that’s all that matters. If you’re ok with leaving your baby a week later, then that’s your threshold. I’ve just gotten a lot of beef about the fact that we haven’t been out, but I’m here to say that it was perfectly fine to have waited. Everybody works on different wavelengths, and I am ok with the decisions we make for our family and what feels right for us. So if you’re like me and still haven’t taken that step, the time will come that you will feel ok to leave your kiddo. I remember thinking when Aria was only a few weeks old how I would ever leave her, and then the time finally came that I could do it. All in good time right?
As for date nights, we talked about how we just need to implement those at the house more since going out is a little tough right now. Babies take up a lot of time, and we can’t forget about each other right? More on that in a different post. As for right now, I’m happy we got to spend some quality time together last night with awesome food!
The Comments
Jessica Lynn
Like you, it took us more than a few months before we went out on a date. It's just hard when there isn't family around! Our first post-baby date was when we were home visiting family. It was so nice to be away for a couple hours (but I missed her so much!). We're trying to do better about getting away from date nights, but for now it's just whenever we visit family. Glad you guys had a night out on the town 🙂
Alfa Sengupta
→ Jessica LynnI'm so glad I'm not the only one! And yes, the entire time I was out, I was missing her! Mom hormones I guess! And yea, we are trying to be better with doing at home date nights once the little one goes to bed!